It is not that you are naive about the challenges that go with love. You expect you will hit a bump or two along the way in your relationship. You are ready for anything, you tell yourself. You will do whatever it takes. In your mind’s eye, you are picturing yourself going out to fight dragons, to save your relationship (even though it is you who created the monsters in the first place). And then it slowly dawns on you: that struggle is not as heroic as you had imagined. It is a death by a thousand cuts. Eventually, it is the relentless day to day grind what will suck the life out of whatever good you two had together.