I will let you in on a secret. Why people like me, who — even though we definitely could use some help — consistently refuse to go on blind dates. A major issue is that we find it difficult to reject someone, if, after one or two dates, we do not feel a spark. Another problem is that we like to get to know someone slowly. Have an innocent chat or two. Listen, taste, smell, and dream us a little dream, before we consider taking that first step. And that is what is such a big problem when going on blind dates. For us, a blind date feels like as if someone got into her or his truck, crassly drove their eight-wheeler into our living-room, got out, wiped the dust from her or his shoulders, and with a swaggering bravado declared, I am your date tonight. Yeah, sorry–that just does not work for us.