Overcoming heartache inevitably hardens one’s heart. This is necessary for healing and makes you less vulnerable if something similar happens again. But in winning, you lose. It’s almost impossible not to discard parts of yourself that were once crucial to who you were. Surviving hardship leaves no room for sentiments that suggest you’re losing something precious. Ignore those calls, those romantic notions of what it means to be human. The past had its chance to shape your future—and it failed. Take bold strides forward, ignoring the sirens telling you the past can be saved, that you can be whole again. They will drain your energy and leave you embittered when reality proves unyielding, no matter how much you pleaded for it to change.
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